Chandigarh The City Beautiful
Disciplining children is not the same as punishing them as many parents tend to think. Many parents are of the opinion that by imparting different forms of punishment to their children, they are disciplining them effectively. They also feel that it is the easiest method that can be used for imparting discipline in children. Thus, first of all, it is important to understand the difference between punishment and discipline. While punishment lets the child know that he has done something wrong in a stern way, discipline is a process that involves teaching what is right and what is wrong.
Some of the following have to be included in the process of disciplining all children: teaching how important it is to respect elders and also knowing what are others’ rights, knowing how the child should behave, and also what kind of behavior the child should avoid. Through this learning, the child will grow to become a disciplined individual who is also confident of himself. He will also feel more secure if such learning is imparted. On the contrary, punishments will not teach much and will create a sense of fear in the child.
It is also important to understand the fact that the whole process of disciplining will require patience and time. The same disciplining techniques and results will not suit all children and so you have to explore and arrive at the best technique. If you are kind and patient in the process of disciplining, it will help the child to behave properly when he becomes an adult. Harsh punishments tend to be counter productive. At the same time, it is important to stay firm and not yield to the kid’s temper tantrums.
Nowadays, it is easy to come across kids who are considered to be generally difficult to manage as they can be extremely stubborn or known to put up frequent temper tantrums. It is easy to give up when you have to deal with children who are known for such qualities. Nevertheless, do not forget the fact that though difficult at the beginning, the process of disciplining can yield favorable results in due course. It is important to stay focused yet do not lose your cool. Even if you are tempted to punish the child, do not give room for it as it will have undesirable results towards the end as the kid can turn worse than before.
It is a good idea to behave in the way you would like your child to behave while staying positive about the final results. Do not criticize the child as it will stall the progress. At the same time, it is not necessary to shower too many praises too as it will not provide much help. But it is good to let the child know about the things that he/she does in the correct manner as it will encourage the child to repeat the same action. It is only when the child is in a trustworthy environment it will be open to change.
